Letting go

It was so ironic I saw a message from a friend today, she was explaining about the importance of letting go of your past relationships. Here is what she said : Hanging on to past loves, views, hurts, and perceptions only stunt your growth, blinds you from your current reality, and relaxes your maturity. People and situations change in most cases are not who they were in the past, the love is a figment of your imagination and the hurts are extensions of how you see yourself. The things they did and the way they were may not be who they are today. As we grow and mature so should our thought process, our views, and our perceptions. Let us learn to see ourselves and others as God sees us, to love like we would want to be loved, forgive like our lives depends on it, and let us not look with eyes of the past but hope for the good and betterment in those individuals and ourselves. We lose out on great relationships because we can't and won't let go of the past. 

I had a similar conversation last night. At the end of the day I had the choice to choose my past relationships or my present and future ones. When I make friends I tend to want to keep them forever. I never realized the friendship I had with someone 20 plus years ago is not the same relationship I had with them then. Life happens to people and situations unfold and the end results are we change with time. I admit I have several friends I held on to over the years for different reasons. The most impressionable friends I had over the years were from my childhood. My memories of Chelsea which was the street I grew up on which includes my school days. Macomb Elementary, Rosa Parks Middle School, and Osborn High School. I have some dear friends that helped me to become who I am today. My church days was well spent at Wayside M.B. Church from the time I was in my mothers womb until my 20's. For some over 30 years of friendship if you wasn't there I can't explain it. A few from my college days at U or M was for sure a blast.

Some relationships needed to end due to me being married now. Some lines I had to cut off out of respect to my  marriage. No room for jealousy or unnecessary drama. I get it. Im not the jealous type but for me to hold on to my ex's because of history is not healthy. We are not the same people. We dont have a future. I had to say goodbye in fb. I dont talk to them on the phone or in person. The past is the past. The things they did and the way they were may not be who they are today. As we grow and mature so should our thought process, our views, and our perceptions. Let us learn to see ourselves and others as God sees us, to love like we would want to be loved, forgive like our lives depends on it, and let us not look with eyes of the past but hope for the good and betterment in those individuals and ourselves. We lose out on great relationships because we can't and won't let go of the past.